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  • midlifelove 4:08 am on December 11, 2009 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: david schnarch, , , impotence, low desire, low libido in men, second most common sexual problem, ,   

    Does Men’s Low Libido Mean No Sex? 

    The woman on the phone was practically whispering. She had a question she wanted answered.  Did low libido (lack of interest in sex) mean a man couldn’t “do it”?

    It became clear as the conversation continued that she suspected her husband was using low libido as an excuse to refuse to have sex on some occasions, while coming on strong when it suited him.

    She wanted the definitive answer: if a man had low libido did that mean he couldn’t get an erection. And if he could, did that mean he didn’t have low libido?

    The conversation terminated abruptly – the impression was the man under discussion had entered the room – and so the caller never stayed long enough to get the answer she probably didn’t want to hear – that it’s just not that simple.

    Most men with lack of libido can achieve erections, but have lost the desire to have sex.

    Out-of-Sync:  Feelings and Physical Arousal

    Sex therapist David Schnarch Ph D. says physical arousal and subjective arousal do not always occur hand-in-hand. You can be obviously physically aroused, but not feel that way. And conversely, you can feel a strong sense of desire, but find your body is not responding.

    Says Dr Schnarch in Resurrecting Sex (Harper Collins) “Subjective arousal has to do with what you’re feeling (or not) about what your body’s doing. Sexual desire has more to do with your interest in engaging in sexual behaviour. Low desire is always relative to other factors – age, sex, health and life context.  Low desire generally shows up as persistent lack of sexual fantasies and disinterest in sexual activity.”

    David Schnarch notes men are just as likely to experience low desire problems as women – between a third and a half depending on which research you believe – but men are loathe to report it.

    Low Libido Second Most Common Men’s Problem

    Low libido is the second most common sexual dysfunction in men after premature ejaculation according to a recent issue of the Journal of the American Medical Association. And a loss of “mojo,” as film character Austin Powers would put it, is also very difficult for men to discuss, despite the help available from health professionals.

    “Impotence and loss of libido are two very separate things,” says Richard Milsten, M.D., a New Jersey-based urologist and coauthor of “The Sexual Male” (W.W. Norton and Company).

    “However, men who experience impotence commonly experience a decrease in libido over time,” he adds. When libido drops and impotence is not a problem, there are numerous factors a doctor might suspect as the cause.

    While any illness can decrease sex drive, some conditions, such as thyroid disease, tumors of the pituitary gland (which controls most hormone production, including sex hormones) and depression, are directly linked to low libido, says Dr Milsten.

    Low Libido Relationship Problems

    Desire problems drain intimacy and good feelings from the relationship.

    One in five married couples has a non-sexual marriage (being sexual less than ten times a year). Three in ten non-married-couples who have been together longer than two years have a non-sexual relationship.

    As the woman caller mentioned at the start indicated, if a man reports low libido his partner often feels rejected and suspects it is just her he doesn’t desire. That can lead to a lack of trust and further emotional conflicts.

    Are there any medicines for low sexual desire?

    Drugs for ED such as Cialis, Levitra and Viagra have no effect on sexual desire – only on erections. Raising testosterone levels, either through injection, patch or herbs like tribulus terrestris, can help. And a number of other herbal remedies that have reported good results in stimulating men’s desire, including horny goat weed, tongkat ali, and muira puama.

    Read more about these herbs and natural sex enhancer Herbal Ignite at http://www.herbalignite.com.

     
  • midlifelove 4:08 am on October 24, 2009 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: , drunkest guy ever goes for beer, , excess alcohol, , , impotence, long term alcohol abuse   

    Drunkest Ever Guy Goes For Beer 

    This guy gives new meaning to the word “paralytic” drunk and that’s for sure. The Drunkest Guy Ever has already gathered millions of YouTube views and you can see why – it’s horribly riveting to watch him scuttle around on his back like a crippled beetle, trying to right itself.

    And you can bet his problems in “getting up” will extend far beyond standing on his two legs.

    His girl friend – if this loser has a woman in his life which would be surprising – will have already discovered that excess alcohol consumption produces budding “super-studs” who end up being “all talk and no action!”

    Alcohol Abuse Causes Impotence

    Case studies have shown that long-term alcohol abuse causes alcohol impotence in men even when they are sober.

    The bottom line is that at best excess alcohol leads to chronic sexual under-performance and at worst chronic alcohol impotence.

    Yet other recent research shows women with any brains don’t stick around for men who drink and smoke excessively. Sorry buddy, failing to get more beer is the least of your problems!

    Herbal Help

    Herbal alternatives can help with erectile dysfunction, but if you’re drinking as heavily as our friend here is, there’s nothing going to save you from a life of bummed out sexual disappointments.  For the rest of the men in more control of their lives, there’s Herbal Ignite.

     
  • midlifelove 9:42 am on October 14, 2009 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: Arnold Palmer, Colin Powell, , , Harry Belafonte, , impotence, Nelson Mandela, nerve-sparing surgery, , prostate cancer treatments, , risks of prostate cancer treatment options, Robert de Niro, , surgery,   

    Prostate Cancer and Impotence 

    Prostate Cancer1It could be one of those random quiz items – what do Robert de Niro, Rudy Guiliani, Nelson Mandela, Arnold Palmer, Harry Belafonte and Colin Powell have in common?

    The answer is that all of them have had prostate cancer, been treated in a variety of ways, (from surgery to radiation to hormone therapy), survived to tell the tale and with a couple of exceptions (mainly de Niro) have been willing to talk publicly to encourage other men to get tested.

    In Rudy Guiliani’s case that openness included acknowledging the issue that is still only reluctantly discussed by many men when facing up to prostate cancer – impotence as a possible side effect of treatment.

    During divorce proceedings in 2001 Mr Guiliani said he had been impotent for a year as a result of his prostate cancer treatments (hormone therapy followed with radiation in implanted pellet form and 25 external radiation treatments).

    Outcome Can’t Be Predicted

    Temporary or permanent impotence can affect up to 70 per cent of men with prostate cancer, and doctors says as of now there is no way to determine who will be affected or for how long after treatment. Even in the best conditions, 10 per cent of patients may be impotent afterwards.

    Andrew Penman, chief executive of the Cancer Council of NSW, (Australia) says doctors who suggest testing younger men PSA levels to identify possible cancers must also tell them at the first interview about ”flow-on issues.”

    It very much depends on a range of factors including the size and aggressiveness of the tumor, the patient’s age, lifestyle, and overall health, and the treatment option chosen.

    Treatment Options & Risks

    • Hormonal therapy – Testosterone is either reduced or its uptake blocked. Erectile dysfunction and a loss of desire usually occur after two to four weeks of treatment.
    • Surgery – The prostate and surrounding cancerous tissue are removed. If nerve-sparing surgery is used, erectile function can return within the first year. Recovery of erectile function after a non-nerve-sparing surgery is unlikely, but possible.
    • Radiation – The tumour area may be blasted with external beam radiation, more tightly targeted for proton radiation, or implanted with radioactive pellets for continuing therapy. ED is the most common complication and usually occurs six months after treatment.
    • Observation – Often called “watchful waiting,” this strategy may be appropriate in some cases where disease progression is slow.

    How Effective Are Oral Erectile Dysfunction Drugs?

    • Following surgery Web MD reports that as many as 60 to 70 per cent of men who have had nerves spared on both sides of the prostate will regain erections. Results are less favourable for men who have had a single nerve spared or no nerves spared.
    • Following radiation therapy Overall, 50 to 60 per cent of men regain erections with Viagra following radiation for prostate cancer. However, current data are rather limited, especially for patients treated with radioactive seed implants.
    • Hormone therapy Specialists at the Cleveland Clinic find that men treated with hormone therapy do not respond well to any erectile dysfunction treatments, including Viagra, but data are limited.

    Can I Use Herbal Supplements?

    There is continuing research into natural ingredients that may be of benefit for prostate health, including saw palmetto and the tomato-based active substance lycopene. Tribulus terrestris in herbal supplements like Herbal Ignite is NOT recommended without doctor’s approval because it stimulates testosterone levels which may be counter-productive to treatment.

    Prostate cancer survivor Jim Tucker’s Prostablog contains a comprehensive section on natural ingredients and therapies which is regularly updated.

     
  • midlifelove 3:12 am on October 11, 2009 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: alcohol abuse, , , impotence, ,   

    Drink Hard, Fail in Bed 

    drinkWhen you are involved in a marketing a herbal supplement that helps men recover their mojo – as we are with Herbal Ignite – you frequently get men ringing up asking whether they can drink alcohol with the product.

    The answer is yes, no problem (ie., no unpleasant side effects) but I always want to ask them “Just how much alcohol are you planning on drinking?” That’s because the question raises red flags about how their drinking may be affecting their health.

    Are they in fact suffering from alcohol-related erectile dysfunction and expecting a herbal pill to fix the problem?

    For as wise old William (Shakespeare) of Stratford noted hundreds of years ago alcohol “provokes the desire but takes away the performance” (paraphrased.)

    The level of safe drinking recommended by medical authorities is around 14 units (glasses) a week for women and 21 a week for men. Indulge in a little “stress relief” via glass or bottle a few times a week and it takes no time at all to have exceeded the recommended levels.

    Moderation Good for Sex

    There’s no argument that small amounts of alcohol, in particular red wine, can be good for you. Alcohol consumed in moderate amounts can release sexual inhibitions, intensify libido and temporarily enhance feelings of wellbeing and self-esteem.

    A Harvard study which showed heavy drinkers and abstainers were the most likely to become impotent also showed moderate drinkers were the least likely to have erectile dysfunction problems.

    These findings are consistent with other studies, which have shown that people who have one or two drinks a day have lower cholesterol and therefore better blood flow. Good circulation is essential for male sexual performance and restricted blood circulation is also a cause of sexual difficulties among women.

    Heavy Drinking Deflates Mojo

    Long term over-consumption however affects the nervous system and impairs the impulses between the brain’s pituitary gland and the genitals, causing problems with triggering and sustaining an erection.

    Alcoholism also disrupts hormone levels, in particular, testosterone and estrogen. Low levels of testosterone diminish sexual drive and function.

    It’s not surprising then, given these facts, that excess alcohol consumption often produces budding “super-studs” who end up being “all talk and no action!”

    Case studies have shown that long-term alcohol abuse causes alcohol impotence in men even when they are sober.

    Regardless of whether over-consumption is caused by physical or psychological factors, the bottom line is that at best excess alcohol leads to chronic sexual under-performance and at worst chronic alcohol impotence.

    Solutions for Alcohol Caused Impotence

    The obvious answer is to seek help in controlling drinking.

    These days a large number of people are looking into alternative medication to get stronger erections and increase libido.

    While conventional remedies for Erectile Dysfunction such as Viagra or Cialis are helpful but they come with a huge price tag and side effects.

    Supplements like Herbal Ignite are proving increasingly popular cause of its 100% natural and herbal makeup.

    You’ll find a lot more information about natural sexual stimulants at http://www.herbaligniteUSA.com as well as the opportunity to order herbal sex boosters.

     
  • midlifelove 4:11 am on July 23, 2009 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: bicycling, , , Dr Irwin Goldstein, impotence, Kate Hudson, , , , natural herbal supplement, Olsen twins, penile numbness, , Sheryl Crow, ,   

    Lance Armstrong’s Low Libido 

    Seven times Tour de France winner Lance Armstrong says he’s no sex champion – even though he’s recently announced the birth of his fourth child, son Max (“20 inches long, 7lbs 5oz, Mommy healthy and so am I”) on Twitter.

    In the three years he was “retired” from professional cycling Lance made a name for himself as a celebrity skirt chaser, leaving his wife and the mother of his three children for singer Sheryl Crow, then breaking up with her three months into their engagement to go on and date actress Kate Hudson and one of the Olsen twins, before setting up with Max’s mother Anna Hansen.

    But in an interview with the Men’s Journal he says he really doesn’t understand why chicks dig him. He says he is sure it isn’t his sex drive!

    “I had sex if I had the energy. I wasn’t one of those guys who believed in the myths about the guy losing his chi. The fact is that if you are riding your bike six, seven hours a day, you are not a sex champion. You’re just not. You have fatigue, low testosterone, and a lower libido. But you know, I never got any complaints.”

    Does Cycling Cause Impotence?

    Clearly the athlete who contested his eighth Tour de France this year and who is promising to be back in 2010 hasn’t yet been struck with the ‘cyclist’s curse’ of impotence predicted by prominent urologist Dr Irwin Goldstein in Bicycling Magazine a few years ago.

    Dr Goldstein got plenty of attention with his claim that “There are two kinds of cyclists: those who are impotent and those who will be.” The jury is still out on whether Lance has anything to worry about, because there have been no qualified or scientifically acceptable studies carried out on the link between impotence and bicycling.

    Sure, there is plenty of anecdotal and clinical evidence to confirm that long-term or endurance cycling causes numbness and discomfort in the genital region, but does that equate to long-term cycling impotence?

    A survey conducted on participants in a Norwegian endurance bike race found that 20% of the competitors reported penile numbness lasting from a few minutes to a day or more following the event and that 13% of competitors reported temporary impotence.

    Manufacturers are currently experimenting with new saddles to reduce pressure and give more support.

    Treatment for Cycling Impotence

    If you’ve noticed a decline in sexual performance – or like Lance you are feeling the effects of fatigue, low testosterone and lowered libido – there are a range of options you can consider from pharmaceuticals like Viagra, Cialis and Levitra to natural herbal supplements like Herbal Ignite (http://www.herbalignite.com) containing tribulus terrestris to boost testosterone. And in the meantime, until more hard evidence surfaces, you’ll be healthier getting on your bike and giving yourself a good cardio workout, than keeping off it because of fear of impotence.

     
  • midlifelove 2:13 am on May 21, 2009 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: , bettina arendt, british columbia, , deeper level, germany, , , impotence, intimate, juicy tomatoes, , , pornography, , , , women's liberation   

    Men’s Sex Secrets Revealed 

    A flood of New Zealand men have contacted Australian sex researcher Bettina Arendt eager to talk about their sex lives following publicity of her latest book The Sex Diaries, based on the sex diaries of 98 couples written over six to nine months.

    The intimate personal records uncovered a problem one man described as “one of society’s best kept secrets” – the reluctance of many married women to engage in regular sex with their partners.

    Now Bettina plans to take her research to a deeper level for her next book, Male Sex Diaries, and she is looking for men willing to take part in her research.

    Time to Ask – What Do Men Want?

    Men wanting to share their personal experience on a whole range of topics – from ‘What men look for in a lover’ ; ‘Are women hard to please?’ ; ‘Ripped off by the impotence industry?’ ; and ‘Using pornography and what women feel about it’ are encouraged to get in touch with Bettina Arndt through her website http://www.bettinaarndt.com.au

    The author’s sympathy with male frustration and her suggestion that women adopt more of a “just do it” attitude to sex has angered some women’s groups, but Bettina is unrepentant.

    “I find it outrageous we have reached the state of affairs where women think it’s OK for men to just put up with having no sex or intermittent sex,” she says. “Many women seem able to conclude sex is an optional extra in the relationship.”

    Say ‘Yes’ More Often

    The problem is that many women seem biologically programmed to lose interest in sex a few years into a relationship, says Bettina Arndt.  “Research in Germany showed that four years into a relationship fewer than half of 30-year-old women wanted steady regular sex.

    “It simply hasn’t worked to have a couple’s sex life hinge on the fragile female libido. The right to say “no” needs to give way to the right to say “yes” more often – provided both men and women end up enjoying the experience.”

    Research by Professor Rosemary Basson from British Columbia has shown many people can experience arousal and orgasm without prior desire, she says. Provided there’s a willingness to be receptive, the rest follows.

    More and Better Sex

    “Once the canoe is in the water, everyone starts happily paddling. For couples to experience regular, pleasurable sex and sustain loving relationships women must get over that ideological roadblock of assumptions about desire and ”just do it”. The result will be both men and women will enjoy more, better sex.

    The Sex Diaries argues that 50 years of feminism has led women to think that if they don’t feel desire, there’s no need to have sex. The right to say ‘no’ is one of the outstanding achievements of feminism, the book suggests.

    Battle of the Sexes Power Shift

    ‘‘The control of the sex supply nicely demonstrates the shift in the past 40 years between men and women,” says Bettina Arndt. “Before, women had to tolerate sex because they had no choice if the men wanted it. Then along came the ’60s, the women’s movement, economic independence and the notion that women were entitled to happiness.

    “So now it is men who are more emotionally dependent on their relationships . . . choosing to bite their tongues. Men are very conscious that the woman might leave if they put too much pressure on her.’’

    No Sex No Laughing Matterfrustrated-man

    Men really welcomed the opportunity to express their feelings about this in the sex diaries, she says.

    “Men might tell jokes about sexually deprived husbands, but talk to them privately and they aren’t laughing. Many feel duped, disappointed, in despair at finding themselves spending their lives begging for sex from their loved partners. They are stunned they find their needs so totally ignored.”

    In some cases, keeping the diaries helped couples open up communication on what had become a tense topic, says Bettina.

    Low Libido Answers

    Not all women suffer from low libido.  Some women – dubbed “juicy tomatoes” by Bettina Arndt – maintain a high sex drive within secure relationships.  And for those who do experience a fall in sexual interest, “just putting up with it” is not the only solution. Herbal supplements like Herbal Ignite http://www.herbalignite.com help increase sexual interest and desire in men and women in a natural, non-invasive way. Herbal Ignite also contains at herbal anti stress component to help reduce anxiety around “the sex question”.

     
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