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  • midlifelove 12:19 am on February 17, 2010 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: , boosts Vit D., cod liver oil, mackerel, salmon, sardines, , sunbathing, sunscreens, sunshine, , tuna, Vit D, Vitamin D   

    Sunshine boosts sex drive 

    The idea of taking a break in the Caribbean sun to rejuvenate your sex life isn’t just an escapist fantasy, according to new research.

    An hour of sunbathing can boost a man’s testosterone levels – and his sex drive – by 69 per cent, European researchers reported in the Daily Telegraph have found.

    Sunshine is vital to boosting Vitamin D levels, and the new study shows Vitamin D is essential for good testosterone levels.

    Stimulated by UV radiation, 90 per cent of Vitamin D in the body is produced by the skin, although it can be found in cold water fish like tuna and salmon, and in cod liver oil.

    And while sunscreens with a sun protection factor of 8 or greater will block UV rays that produce Vitamin D, but it is still important to routinely use sunscreen whenever sun exposure is longer than 10 to 15 minutes.

    Testosterone Fluctuates With Sunshine

    Researchers at the Medical University of Graz in Austria found men with more Vitamin D per millilitre of blood had much more of the main male sexual hormone circulating than those with less.

    And the average amount of testosterone over the course of the year was subject to the same fluctuations as the Vitamin D level.

    Both decrease from October – at the beginning of the winter months – and reach their lowest level in March because of the weaker solar radiation during this period.

    Not Enough Sun

    Season, latitude, time of day, cloud cover, smog, and sunscreens affect UV ray exposure, so if you live somewhere with little sun, it is especially important to include good sources of Vitamin D in your food.

    In Boston – for example – the average amount of sunlight is insufficient to produce significant Vitamin D synthesis in the skin from November through February.

    Ad Brand, spokesman of the Sunlight Research Forum in Veldhoven in the Netherlands, said: “Men who ensure their body is at least sufficiently supplied with Vitamin D are doing good for their testosterone levels and their libido among other things.”

    Best Foods For Vit D

    While sunshine is the most effective Vitamin D source, it can also be obtained by eating fatty fish –cold water varieties like salmon, mackerel, tuna and sardines, by taking cod liver oil, eggs, beef liver, or UV irradiated mushrooms.

    Foods like cereals and milk are now routinely fortified with Vit D.

    Testosterone is the most important male sexual hormone. In males it is mainly responsible for the development of the sex organs, the formation and maintenance of the typical male sexual characteristics, sperm production and the controlling of male desire.

     
  • midlifelove 3:28 am on February 15, 2010 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: 6 cups of coffee a day, aggressive cancer affected most, , decaf as good, , Kathryn M Wilson, , survival rates improved   

    Coffee To Beat Prostate Cancer 

    Having a few more cups of coffee can reduce a man’s risk of dying of prostate cancer, a new study indicates.

    While the case for coffee as a preventative for prostate cancer is far from proven, results show a definite link, particularly with aggressive forms of cancer, US News reports.

    “I wouldn’t recommend that people change their coffee-drinking habits based on this study,” said Kathryn M. Wilson, a research fellow in epidemiology at the Harvard School of Public Health and lead author of one report. “But if you like coffee, there is no compelling reason to cut back at this point.”

    Aggressive Cancer Affected Most

    Data collected on 50,000 men showed nearly 10 per cent (4975) were diagnosed with prostate cancer in the 20 years from 1986 to 2006.

    But only 846 of those cancers were life-threatening. And while the study found just a weak relationship between consumption of six or more cups of coffee a day and a reduced risk of all forms of prostate cancer (down about 19 percent), the reduction for the aggressive form was much more marked — 41 percent.

    And there was a clear relationship between the amount of coffee consumed and prostate cancer risk, Wilson said: “The more coffee you drank, the more effect we saw.”

    Decaf Works Just As Well

    The caffeine in coffee doesn’t seem to be the link, since the same reduction was seen for consumption of decaffeinated coffee, she said.

    Instead, “it has something to do with insulin and glucose metabolism,” Wilson said. “A number of studies have found that coffee is associated with a reduced risk of diabetes.”

    This study is just a starting point for establishing a relationship between coffee and prostate cancer, Wilson stressed.

    “We hope that this study drives more research so that we really know what is going on.”

     
  • midlifelove 2:07 am on February 13, 2010 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: Catholic church, , PETA, Sasha Grey, scandalous PETA ads, sex a bad thing   

    Too Much Sex a Bad Thing 

    PETA (People for the Ethical Treatment of Animals) has made the slogan “Too Much Sex a Bad Thing” something like a “brand” for their campaign for birth control for cats and dogs.

    Over the years they’ve produced a string of suitably ‘scandalous’ ads featuring scantily clad or naked women and the latest to join the strip roster is porn star/ actress Sasha Grey.

    You could ask why they haven’t used buff young men as well and you’d have to conclude they know as well as anyone who attracts the most attention.

    Sasha is photographed naked, glancing alluringly over her shoulder with the caption: “Too Much Sex Can Be a Bad Thing: Have your cats and dogs spayed or neutered.”

    You can judge for yourself the effectiveness of the campaign:

    http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2010/01/19/sasha-grey-nude-peta-ad-p_n_428763.html

    And if you really want to see why some folk object, take a look at one of the earlier campaigns which upset the Catholic church:

    http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2009/12/16/a-decade-of-scandalous-pe_n_388741.html?slidenumber=zVaC0cqFdwM%3D&slideshow&slideshow&slideshow&slideshow&slideshow&slideshow&slideshow&slideshow&slideshow&slideshow&slideshow

    Sex Good For Humans

    Interestingly, unless you’ve concerns about sexually transmitted diseases or over population, the same can’t be said for humans.

    Sex is Good for You was one of this blog’s most popular posts, and it’s true that the emotional and health benefits of an active sex life are being steadily recognised.

    Even for animals other than companion pets, it’s something to be generally encouraged. The company that produces a herbal sex tonic for men, Herbal Ignite, reports one happy customer for many years was the owner of the pure bred stallion, who popped a few pills of Ignite in his morning chaff to boost his performance.

    If you are interested in improving your SEX life, then download this e-book on getting stronger Erections. http://herbaligniteusa.com/free-treatment

     
  • midlifelove 2:13 am on February 11, 2010 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: Angeline Close, frugal Valentine's, low cost gifts, , saving not spending, Valentine's Day   

    My Frugal Valentine 

    Valentine’s Day is taking a big hit as the third year of recession turns Americans into savers rather than spenders, the NY Times reports.

    Business forecasters say as the financial crisis continues to bite, people are re-evaluating their personal values and making permanent changes to their spending habits.

    The result is Valentine’s Day is returning to its roots, as an intimate card-giving occasion that grew into the second-most marketed holiday after Christmas.

    Cheaper Faster Better!

    For 2010, with apologies to Rodgers and Hart, frugal valentines are likely to supplant funny ones. The mood is epitomized by the cover of the Feb. 17 issue of Woman’s Day magazine. Next to a photograph of a heart-shaped chocolate dessert on a pink plate are these words: “Cheaper, Faster, Better!”

    Long-stemmed roses are being replaced by homemade cards, and personal jewelry by personal poems. Budget restaurants, which have not traditionally been hot spots for lovers, are offering Valentine’s Day specials.

    Creative and Personal

    The Internet abounds with ideas for frugal options, like playlists burned onto CDs and coupons for household chores.

    And even some preparing to propose on Valentine’s are seeking a bargain approach: on Yahoo, searches for “cheap engagement rings” are “off the charts” compared with a year ago.

    Other searches that are up over last year include “cheap lingerie,” “free Valentine’s Day cards” and “homemade Valentine’s Day gifts.”

    Romance and Humour

    Some suggestions for low cost personal ways to celebrate:

    • Do whatever it is that you did on your first date. The idea is to recreate that first meeting, recall falling in love and indulge in a little humorous nostalgia.
    • Imitate the couple who were building a “blanket fort” in their living room and sharing a picnic dinner – or take a picnic in the park for real
    • Cook a nice dinner together and listen to your favourite CD’s.
    • Prepare a special Valentine’s dessert
    • Give each other a massage

    Angeline Close, a business professor at the University of Nevada, Las Vegas, says Valentine’s Day may be coming full circle.

    “It started as a very pure romantic holiday, until capitalism and marketing spiked it,” she said. “We are retreating back a little bit to the original meaning behind the day.”

     
  • midlifelove 1:40 am on February 9, 2010 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: bathroom, , dead skin n cells, dummies, loo, poo, removal, , underwear, undies, weighing scale   

    5 Worst Valentine’s Gifts 

    If you’re feeling sour rather than sweet about your 21010 Valentine, we’ve got suggestions for the Five Worst Valentine’s Gifts ever. These are little somethings that are guaranteed to offend.  If you risk giving them, be ready to handle the fall out, or make sure the (misplaced?) object of your affections has a great sense of humor.

    1) Sex for Dummies Book

    2) Installing two person loo for your loved one to poo at the same time as you

    3) Underwear to fit two people

    4) Chocolate scale to remind her that she’s got lots to lose

    5) Remove your own dead skin and fallen hair

     
  • midlifelove 11:55 pm on February 7, 2010 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: AARP magazine, , hot marriage, Jim Jerome, keeping up with young wife, male enhancement, ,   

    Michael Douglas: Keeping Marriage Hot 

    Michael Douglas answers the questions we’d all like to ask – like how does his 65-year-old body keep a smoking-hot marriage going with much younger wife Catherine Zeta-Jones – in a recent interview in AARP magazine.

    And not surprisingly, like many men his age, he relies on a little male enhancement.

    On Catherine: “God bless her that she likes older guys. And some wonderful enhancements have happened in the last few years—Viagra, Cialis—that can make us all feel younger.”

    Pick Up Line That Almost Blew It

    He talks frankly with interviewer Jim Jerome about how he almost blew his first meeting with Catherine, when he opened with a leaden pick-up line.

    “I want to father your children,” he said.

    “I’ve heard a lot about you,” she responded calmly. “It’s nice to know it’s all true. Good night.” And she was gone.

    Smitten, he persevered with roses and romance and the rest as they say is history. His second time round chance at marriage and children is something he never expected.

    Family Most Important

    “My career was the most important thing in my life, followed by marriage and children,” he confesses. “And it’s completely reversed now. I never anticipated starting a family and the joy of raising kids at my age.”

    Early on, the couple came to terms with the 25-year age gap between them: “Catherine is an old soul,” Douglas says.

    Still, there were complications. Douglas’s future in-laws-David, a retired confectioner, and Patricia, both now 62—were three years younger than the groom.

    “I wasn’t quite the son-in-law they’d envisioned. I do like to wind up Catherine’s father and call him Pops.”

    Hands-On Dad

    Just finished filming Wall Street 2, Douglas is playing “house husband” while Zeta-Jones comes home at midnight and sleeps in late with her starring role in the Broadway musical A Little Night Music.

    He is waking before 6:00 to help get the kids off to school. “I love to be the first face they see,” he says. “It’s a selfish pleasure. It’s a very special time, the mornings.”

    Zeta-Jones says that Douglas thrives on his at-home role: “Michael tells me that [new fatherhood] keeps him agile. He’s a terrific, extremely hands-on father.”

    Staying Fit at 60

    Douglas stays fit and energized by hiking, diving, and taking family skiing trips near his Quebec farm. But he admits that age has its limitations, in particular when he goes to the gym. “It used to be you got that 30-minute cardio workout and that great sense of euphoria. Now you finish and go, ‘Phew, I’m glad that’s over.’

    These days, the Douglases’ social life often amounts to hanging out with the kids or catching up with friends at a local restaurant. “You’ve got these few years of unequivocal love when Mom and Dad can do no wrong. So we’re a tight family unit.”

    Different from Dad Kirk

    It’s a different domestic scene from the one Douglas grew up in. His father, Kirk, according to Michael, didn’t handle parenting well. “I was the product of a divorced family,” he recalls. “My dad was always torn; he was working really hard and would want to see us. But then, with all his Kirk Douglas passion, he’d try to be a father for a week, a summer, whatever. It was tough.

    “I think it’s easier for me to be a good father. I’m not so concerned about my career,” Douglas continues. “I like to be home a lot more now.”

    Natural Enhancement

    If like Michael you’d benefit from a boost to your sex life, but prefer herbal to pharmaceutical products, there’s plenty to choose from.  For more information see  http://www.herbaligniteusa.com.

     
  • midlifelove 11:28 pm on February 5, 2010 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: belly fat bad, big butt healthy, Dr Konstantinos Manolopoulos, fat stored on hips, Large thighs good, Oxford University, spare tire unhealthy   

    Long Live Big Butt Women 

    Those curves are making cardiologists smile.

    A new study out of Oxford University in England reported in the NY Post found women with “pear-shaped” figures — ample extra padding around the hips, buttocks and thighs — are actually at a lower risk for heart and metabolic diseases.

    “It is shape that matters and where the fat gathers,” said Oxford’s Dr. Konstantinos Manolopoulos, explaining that fat stored on the hips and in the rear absorb harmful fatty acids and further prevent arteries from clogging.

    Belly Fat Is Bad

    “Fat around the hips and thighs is good for you, but around the tummy is bad,” he told BBC News, noting that the proverbial “spare tire” around the belly leads to higher incidences of heart disease.

    The findings help explain why women traditionally have lower rates of heart disease then men until they reach menopause, when their rates rise as they begin to gather fat around their midsections.

    “The only thing I can say is that women who have large thighs shouldn’t be anxious about it,” Manolopoulos said. “Their body shape is associated with health.”

    Scientists believe genetics play a large role in where a body stores fat.

     
  • midlifelove 2:43 am on February 3, 2010 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: death rate decreased, exercise benefits, , , Stacey A Kenfield, survival rate increased, US News.com,   

    Running Beats Prostate Cancer 

    Three or more hours of physical exercise a week improves survival rates for prostate cancer, a new Harvard study suggests.

    The death rate from prostate cancer for men who exercised vigorously was 12 per cent lower that for those who didn’t, US News reports. Because the study sample was small, it didn’t quite reach statistical significance, says lead author Stacey A. Kenfield, a research associate at the Harvard School of Public Health.

    Nevertheless, “this is the first study to show an effect of physical activity not only on overall survival, but on prostate cancer survival,” she said.

    Boosts Immunity, Reduces Inflammation

    The study looked at the levels of physical activity among 2,686 men in the study who were diagnosed with prostate cancer.

    It found, as many other studies have, that exercise is good for overall health, with a 35 percent lower death rate for men who reported three or more hours a week of vigorous physical activity, such as jogging, biking, swimming or playing tennis.

    It’s already well known how physical activity reduces overall mortality, Kenfield said. “It affects immune function and reduces inflammation, among the major processes involved. But it’s not clear yet how it is related to prostate cancer and survival.”

     
  • midlifelove 2:23 am on February 1, 2010 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: aggressive women, blonde warrior, blondes, Dolly Parton, Reese Witherspoon, Type A women   

    Blondes More Warlike Than Brunettes 

    Multi-talented blonde Reese Witherspoon became one of Hollywood’s highest paid actresses playing a ditzy sophomore who’s really smart in the Legally Blonde movies.

    Dubbed “Little Miss Type A” by her family when barely out of kindergarten, she has carried on the family joke by naming her production company Type A Films.

    Like Dolly Parton before her, she’s a role model for blondes who are warriors rather than wimps – and according to a new study, they’re performing to aggressive type.

    Get More Attention

    The University of California study found blondes are more likely to display a “warlike” streak because they attract more attention than other women and are used to getting their own way — the so-called “princess effect”.

    Even those who dye their hair blonde – like Dolly – quickly take on these attributes, experts found.

    The research, reported on Times Online, was designed to discover whether women who are judged more attractive than others are also more likely to lose their tempers to get what they want.

    Prepared To Fight

    “We expected blondes to feel more entitled than other young women — this is southern California, the natural habitat of the privileged blonde,” said Aaron Sell, who led the study which has been published in the Proceedings of the National Academy of Science. “What we did not expect to find was how much more warlike they are than their peers on campus.”

    The researchers believe this is a useful measure of how far women are prepared to fight for their own interests.

    The study, which examined links between confidence and aggression, involved 156 female undergraduates.

    It showed that blondes were more likely to be treated better than other women and were more willing to “go to war”. However, they were less likely than brunettes or redheads to get into a fight themselves — possibly to ensure they preserved their looks.

    Blonde Bubble

    The research did confirm one theory: when male students were asked to rate the attractiveness of their female counterparts, blondes gained the highest scores.

    Sell suspects that blondes exist in a “bubble” where they have been treated better than other people for so long they do not realise that men, in particular, are more deferential towards them than other women.

    “They may not even realise they are treated like a princess,” Sell said.

     
  • midlifelove 2:31 am on January 30, 2010 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: , how to have a great marriage, Ian and Mary Grant, , mens and womens brains different, tips for better marriage, unhappy marriage   

    How to Have a Great Marriage 

    Marriage is a two-storey house – that’s her story and his story, quips Ian Grant*, parenting and relationship guru, who with Mary, his wife of 40 years runs the highly successful Hot Tips on Marriage seminars in New Zealand and Australia.

    Now the couple have combined to write Growing Great Marriages, a book based on the Hot Tips seminars which offers hundreds of practical strategies for giving and getting the love you want in your marriage. Some of their ideas from the book:

    Top Five Tips for A Better Marriage

    1) Watch your language

    Research shows the ratio of praise to blame is like spring rain – praise and your marriage will flourish, blame and it will wither. Couples who say five positive things for one negative should be OK. When the threshold drops to one to two they are in trouble.

    Thousands of trials have shown men are much more affected by arguments than women are:  “flooding” – when brain messages bypass the thinking and judging mechanisms and go straight to the “old reptile brain” – the section of the brain that generates negative emotions and knee jerk reactions – happens at much lower levels of criticism in men than women and they stay in that flooded state for longer.

    2) Commit and invest in the relationship

    A 2002 study by the Institute for American Values in New York showed it was wrong to assume that someone in a troubled marriage has two choices: stay married and be miserable, or get a divorce and be happy. A survey of so-called “unhappily married” couples showed two thirds of the couples who stayed married were actually happier five years later.

    Other research shows if a partner invests into a relationship, he or she is happier. When you invest in something, you bond to it.

    3) Remember men’s and women’s brains work differently:

    Think of the brain like a house: In men brain activity focuses on different sections of the brain and they switch from section to section like someone moving from appliance to appliance in a house, switching them on when needed and then turning them off.

    Women’s brains function more globally – they’ve switched on everything in the house and left it on!

    Bill and Pam Farrel’s best seller Men are Like Waffles Women are Like Spaghetti (Harvest House)  gives a great picture for the way gender affects  the way men and women think.

    Women are good at multi-tasking because like a plate of spaghetti , their brain wiring is made up of lots of different strands, touching and intertwining with each other.  Women process life through interconnections. Every thought and issue is connected to every other thought and issue.

    Men’ brains are geared to work in a more compartmentalised way – like squares on a waffle. Don’t engage Dad in meaningful conversation while he is cooking the barbecue because he is focused on one thing – getting the meat cooked. Men will work on one square at a time, and then move on to the next one.

     

    4) Operate a love bank

    When difficulties arise, focus on restoring love, not resolving conflicts.

    Only one in four marriages is saved through counselling, which has traditionally focused on conflict resolution. But what most couples want is to maintain the feelings of romantic love, and if they can do that the conflict resolves itself. (Romantic love triggers the endorphins which give the pleasurable feeling of being in love)

    The Love Bank idea was developed by Dr William Harley, author of Fall in Love, Stay in Love. Think about the “love currency” you can deposit for your partner.

    Ask yourself “What can I do that makes him feel the best?” Men thrive when offered recreational companionship, sexual fulfilment and admiration from their wives. Women thrive on affection, openness and honesty. What makes people happiest is receiving attention from the people who matter most to us.

    5) Plan dates

    Ian and Mary Grant have dozens of great ideas of sharing positive time together. Amongst their suggestions:

    A 48 hour retreat; book somewhere special, take candles, special lingerie, etc and create your own haven.

    Work through the alphabet for date nights – some may be elaborate, and others as simples as a DVD you both want to see.

    Stage regular “cloth napkin dinners” with a formal setting, best cutlery and candles.

    On your wedding anniversary each year plan a special dinner and repeat your wedding vows to one another.

    *Ian and Mary Grant are high profile parenting and relationship gurus who founded Parents Inc, an Auckland based centre which runs nationwide seminars and courses on family and relationships.

     
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