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  • midlifelove 10:22 pm on March 2, 2010 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: , Ask Sam, Father of the year, Gordon Ramsay, Gordongate, infidelity, married man, mistresses, , other woman, Sarah Symonds,   

    Gordon Ramsay’s ‘Ex’: Tips for the ‘Other Woman’ 

    Is it a case of “Mistresses of the World, Unite?”

    Celebrity chef Gordon Ramsay’s newly reformed ex-lover Sarah Symonds has written what she describes as a “taboo-busting book “– and she’s passed it on to Tiger Wood’s mistresses in the hope they’ll “learn something from her mistakes.”

    A bit late for them perhaps, but self-proclaimed “infidelity expert” Sarah is undeterred. She’s also gone on Oprah peddling a non-profit organisation “Mistresses Anonymous” (which includes a 12-step program to recovery).

    Why She Went Public

    Sydney Morning Herald sex and relationships blogger Ask Sam was wondering in print what it was with the abundance of mistresses going public on their affairs, so she asked Sarah why she’d decided to spill the beans on her seven-year-affair with the F-word maestro.

    As the British tabloids were quick to point out, Sarah is the debonair bleached-blonde babe who shouted from atop the pages of every British celebrity tabloid about her affair with Father of the Year Ramsay.

    As Ask Sam notes, “we also quickly learnt that this wasn’t the first time she bonked a married man, with the media dubbing her as “making a career out of sleeping with other people’s husbands”

    Other Woman “Can’t Win”

    “Outing” Ramsay, – she calls it “Gordongate” – had nothing to do with wanting to see her name in lights, she told Ask Sam.

    “I went on record to tell my true story after I heard that Gordon was so hurtfully denying it and me, and lying about our affair,” she told Sam.

    In hindsight (and after much trial and error) Symonds now realises high profile public men like Ramsay and Woods are never going to leave their wives for their mistresses.

    “A married man will 99.9% never leave his wife, and uses a mistress as his crutch to stay in an unhappy marriage,” she says.

    From her recent realisation, she feels her job now is to warn all women against dating a married man and being used in another person’s relationship. So here it is, Sarah’s golden rule for singles.

    Top Five Tips For “Other Women”

    1. Never date a married man! Why be second best?
    2. Do your due diligence when you meet a guy to find out if he is married or not. Some men slip their wedding rings off.
    3. Empower yourself enough to not settle for the crumbs of a married man’s time. Find a SINGLE man.
    4. Wives, act more like mistresses to stop your husbands from cheating on you!
    5. Never believe a word any man tells you. Basically, “if his lips are moving he is lying”.

    Ask Sam (Samantha Brett’s) new book The Chase; Everything you need to know about Men, Dating and Sex is available from February 1 at Booktopia.

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  • midlifelove 1:00 pm on February 27, 2010 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: adultery, , Kara Wilson, Paul Burrell, Princess Diana, Shirley Valentine, Tom Conti   

    Adultery ‘No Big Deal’ – Tom Conti 

    There are worse things than being unfaithful, according to movie Lothario Tom Conti in an interview with the Times in which he says sex is nothing more than “an extension of a handshake”.

    The Scottish star of  Shirley Valentine who is rumoured to have had an affair with Diana, Princess of Wales, said he believed that of all the things people could do to one another, sexual infidelity was “probably one of the least terrible”.

    ‘Don’t Upset the Applecart’

    Conti (68) who has been married to Kara Wilson, an actress, for 42 years, says it’s “all about degrees. Of course, if you upset the whole applecart that’s a different story.”

    Conti and his wife are said by actress daughter Nina to have an open marriage in which both have had a string of affairs, and Conti finds some people’s sensitivity to the idea puzzling.

    “The slightest sniff of infidelity and they are reaching for the lawyer,” he said. “I remember a very famous actor with whom I was friendly who, when he was in his seventies, married a girl of 23.

    “He came home unexpectedly one day and she was under the decorator. He phoned me to tell me he was getting divorced. I said ‘the girl is 23. You are 70. You can’t satisfy her every night. Do you want her to live like a nun? Why don’t you just close your eyes to it?’

    “He said he would always worry that she was being unfaithful. I said ‘so worry a little’. But they divorced. It was very stupid. It cost him millions and the woman he is now married to is an absolute bloody nightmare.”

    The Player and the Princess

    In 2003 it was speculated that Conti had had an affair with Diana after Paul Burrell, her former butler, revealed in his memoirs she’d been involved in a relationship with an unnamed actor. The pair were known to have enjoyed a string of lunch dates and Conti attended her funeral in 1997 but has refused to discuss their relationship further.

    “She was delightful, she was lovely,” he said. “It was so sad for the boys because they were such children. A child losing his mother is vulnerable beyond description.”

    He said the secret of his long marriage was “tolerance on both sides” and denied suggestions that his real life mirrored that of the men he has portrayed on screen.

    Is Fidelity Important?

    Do you agree with Conti’s cool assessment of the dangers of adultery? Have you been betrayed and hurt by it? Or do you agree with his “turn a blind eye and tolerate it” approach. Share your views – we’d love to hear what you think.

     
  • midlifelove 12:06 am on February 27, 2010 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: beam radiation therapy, Dr Richard Valicenti, , radiation treatment, sex life after cancer, sex life good after cancer, sex life normal two years later   

    Radiation for Prostate Cancer Won’t Hurt Sex 

    If a man’s sex life was strong and happy before being he got prostate cancer, it’s likely it will return to similar good levels within two years of radiation treatment for prostate cancer.

    That’s the conclusion to be drawn from a new study on how sex is affected by the effects of prostate radiation treatments.

    While sex is likely to decrease over the first two years after treatment, it then stabilizes, according to US research reported by UPI.

    Satisfaction Four Years Later

    Researchers at the Jefferson Medical College of Thomas Jefferson University in Philadelphia, the Thomas Jefferson University Hospital in Philadelphia and University of California, Davis, School of Medicine evaluated 143 prostate cancer patients receiving external beam radiation therapy who completed baseline data on sexual function before treatment and at follow-up visits.

    Senior author Dr. Richard Valicenti of the University of California, Davis, School of Medicine, said patients were analyzed on sexual drive, erectile function, ejaculatory function and overall satisfaction for a median time of about four years.

    Past Performance Best Predictor

    The study authors found the strongest predictor of sexual function after treatment was sexual function before treatment and the only statistically significant decrease in function occurred in the first two years after treatment — and function then stabilized with no significant changes thereafter.

    The findings are published in the International Journal of Radiation Oncology*Biology*Physics.

     
  • midlifelove 12:19 am on February 17, 2010 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: , boosts Vit D., cod liver oil, mackerel, salmon, sardines, , sunbathing, sunscreens, sunshine, , tuna, Vit D, Vitamin D   

    Sunshine boosts sex drive 

    The idea of taking a break in the Caribbean sun to rejuvenate your sex life isn’t just an escapist fantasy, according to new research.

    An hour of sunbathing can boost a man’s testosterone levels – and his sex drive – by 69 per cent, European researchers reported in the Daily Telegraph have found.

    Sunshine is vital to boosting Vitamin D levels, and the new study shows Vitamin D is essential for good testosterone levels.

    Stimulated by UV radiation, 90 per cent of Vitamin D in the body is produced by the skin, although it can be found in cold water fish like tuna and salmon, and in cod liver oil.

    And while sunscreens with a sun protection factor of 8 or greater will block UV rays that produce Vitamin D, but it is still important to routinely use sunscreen whenever sun exposure is longer than 10 to 15 minutes.

    Testosterone Fluctuates With Sunshine

    Researchers at the Medical University of Graz in Austria found men with more Vitamin D per millilitre of blood had much more of the main male sexual hormone circulating than those with less.

    And the average amount of testosterone over the course of the year was subject to the same fluctuations as the Vitamin D level.

    Both decrease from October – at the beginning of the winter months – and reach their lowest level in March because of the weaker solar radiation during this period.

    Not Enough Sun

    Season, latitude, time of day, cloud cover, smog, and sunscreens affect UV ray exposure, so if you live somewhere with little sun, it is especially important to include good sources of Vitamin D in your food.

    In Boston – for example – the average amount of sunlight is insufficient to produce significant Vitamin D synthesis in the skin from November through February.

    Ad Brand, spokesman of the Sunlight Research Forum in Veldhoven in the Netherlands, said: “Men who ensure their body is at least sufficiently supplied with Vitamin D are doing good for their testosterone levels and their libido among other things.”

    Best Foods For Vit D

    While sunshine is the most effective Vitamin D source, it can also be obtained by eating fatty fish –cold water varieties like salmon, mackerel, tuna and sardines, by taking cod liver oil, eggs, beef liver, or UV irradiated mushrooms.

    Foods like cereals and milk are now routinely fortified with Vit D.

    Testosterone is the most important male sexual hormone. In males it is mainly responsible for the development of the sex organs, the formation and maintenance of the typical male sexual characteristics, sperm production and the controlling of male desire.

     
  • midlifelove 2:07 am on February 13, 2010 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: Catholic church, , PETA, Sasha Grey, scandalous PETA ads, sex a bad thing   

    Too Much Sex a Bad Thing 

    PETA (People for the Ethical Treatment of Animals) has made the slogan “Too Much Sex a Bad Thing” something like a “brand” for their campaign for birth control for cats and dogs.

    Over the years they’ve produced a string of suitably ‘scandalous’ ads featuring scantily clad or naked women and the latest to join the strip roster is porn star/ actress Sasha Grey.

    You could ask why they haven’t used buff young men as well and you’d have to conclude they know as well as anyone who attracts the most attention.

    Sasha is photographed naked, glancing alluringly over her shoulder with the caption: “Too Much Sex Can Be a Bad Thing: Have your cats and dogs spayed or neutered.”

    You can judge for yourself the effectiveness of the campaign:

    http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2010/01/19/sasha-grey-nude-peta-ad-p_n_428763.html

    And if you really want to see why some folk object, take a look at one of the earlier campaigns which upset the Catholic church:

    http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2009/12/16/a-decade-of-scandalous-pe_n_388741.html?slidenumber=zVaC0cqFdwM%3D&slideshow&slideshow&slideshow&slideshow&slideshow&slideshow&slideshow&slideshow&slideshow&slideshow&slideshow

    Sex Good For Humans

    Interestingly, unless you’ve concerns about sexually transmitted diseases or over population, the same can’t be said for humans.

    Sex is Good for You was one of this blog’s most popular posts, and it’s true that the emotional and health benefits of an active sex life are being steadily recognised.

    Even for animals other than companion pets, it’s something to be generally encouraged. The company that produces a herbal sex tonic for men, Herbal Ignite, reports one happy customer for many years was the owner of the pure bred stallion, who popped a few pills of Ignite in his morning chaff to boost his performance.

    If you are interested in improving your SEX life, then download this e-book on getting stronger Erections. http://herbaligniteusa.com/free-treatment

     
  • midlifelove 1:40 am on February 9, 2010 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: bathroom, , dead skin n cells, dummies, loo, poo, removal, , underwear, undies, weighing scale   

    5 Worst Valentine’s Gifts 

    If you’re feeling sour rather than sweet about your 21010 Valentine, we’ve got suggestions for the Five Worst Valentine’s Gifts ever. These are little somethings that are guaranteed to offend.  If you risk giving them, be ready to handle the fall out, or make sure the (misplaced?) object of your affections has a great sense of humor.

    1) Sex for Dummies Book

    2) Installing two person loo for your loved one to poo at the same time as you

    3) Underwear to fit two people

    4) Chocolate scale to remind her that she’s got lots to lose

    5) Remove your own dead skin and fallen hair

     
  • midlifelove 11:55 pm on February 7, 2010 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: AARP magazine, , hot marriage, Jim Jerome, keeping up with young wife, male enhancement, ,   

    Michael Douglas: Keeping Marriage Hot 

    Michael Douglas answers the questions we’d all like to ask – like how does his 65-year-old body keep a smoking-hot marriage going with much younger wife Catherine Zeta-Jones – in a recent interview in AARP magazine.

    And not surprisingly, like many men his age, he relies on a little male enhancement.

    On Catherine: “God bless her that she likes older guys. And some wonderful enhancements have happened in the last few years—Viagra, Cialis—that can make us all feel younger.”

    Pick Up Line That Almost Blew It

    He talks frankly with interviewer Jim Jerome about how he almost blew his first meeting with Catherine, when he opened with a leaden pick-up line.

    “I want to father your children,” he said.

    “I’ve heard a lot about you,” she responded calmly. “It’s nice to know it’s all true. Good night.” And she was gone.

    Smitten, he persevered with roses and romance and the rest as they say is history. His second time round chance at marriage and children is something he never expected.

    Family Most Important

    “My career was the most important thing in my life, followed by marriage and children,” he confesses. “And it’s completely reversed now. I never anticipated starting a family and the joy of raising kids at my age.”

    Early on, the couple came to terms with the 25-year age gap between them: “Catherine is an old soul,” Douglas says.

    Still, there were complications. Douglas’s future in-laws-David, a retired confectioner, and Patricia, both now 62—were three years younger than the groom.

    “I wasn’t quite the son-in-law they’d envisioned. I do like to wind up Catherine’s father and call him Pops.”

    Hands-On Dad

    Just finished filming Wall Street 2, Douglas is playing “house husband” while Zeta-Jones comes home at midnight and sleeps in late with her starring role in the Broadway musical A Little Night Music.

    He is waking before 6:00 to help get the kids off to school. “I love to be the first face they see,” he says. “It’s a selfish pleasure. It’s a very special time, the mornings.”

    Zeta-Jones says that Douglas thrives on his at-home role: “Michael tells me that [new fatherhood] keeps him agile. He’s a terrific, extremely hands-on father.”

    Staying Fit at 60

    Douglas stays fit and energized by hiking, diving, and taking family skiing trips near his Quebec farm. But he admits that age has its limitations, in particular when he goes to the gym. “It used to be you got that 30-minute cardio workout and that great sense of euphoria. Now you finish and go, ‘Phew, I’m glad that’s over.’

    These days, the Douglases’ social life often amounts to hanging out with the kids or catching up with friends at a local restaurant. “You’ve got these few years of unequivocal love when Mom and Dad can do no wrong. So we’re a tight family unit.”

    Different from Dad Kirk

    It’s a different domestic scene from the one Douglas grew up in. His father, Kirk, according to Michael, didn’t handle parenting well. “I was the product of a divorced family,” he recalls. “My dad was always torn; he was working really hard and would want to see us. But then, with all his Kirk Douglas passion, he’d try to be a father for a week, a summer, whatever. It was tough.

    “I think it’s easier for me to be a good father. I’m not so concerned about my career,” Douglas continues. “I like to be home a lot more now.”

    Natural Enhancement

    If like Michael you’d benefit from a boost to your sex life, but prefer herbal to pharmaceutical products, there’s plenty to choose from.  For more information see  http://www.herbaligniteusa.com.

     
  • midlifelove 2:43 am on February 3, 2010 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: death rate decreased, exercise benefits, , , Stacey A Kenfield, survival rate increased, US News.com,   

    Running Beats Prostate Cancer 

    Three or more hours of physical exercise a week improves survival rates for prostate cancer, a new Harvard study suggests.

    The death rate from prostate cancer for men who exercised vigorously was 12 per cent lower that for those who didn’t, US News reports. Because the study sample was small, it didn’t quite reach statistical significance, says lead author Stacey A. Kenfield, a research associate at the Harvard School of Public Health.

    Nevertheless, “this is the first study to show an effect of physical activity not only on overall survival, but on prostate cancer survival,” she said.

    Boosts Immunity, Reduces Inflammation

    The study looked at the levels of physical activity among 2,686 men in the study who were diagnosed with prostate cancer.

    It found, as many other studies have, that exercise is good for overall health, with a 35 percent lower death rate for men who reported three or more hours a week of vigorous physical activity, such as jogging, biking, swimming or playing tennis.

    It’s already well known how physical activity reduces overall mortality, Kenfield said. “It affects immune function and reduces inflammation, among the major processes involved. But it’s not clear yet how it is related to prostate cancer and survival.”

     
  • midlifelove 5:20 am on January 24, 2010 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: weight sexual turn-off, worry about weight and sex life   

    Sex and Weight Biggest Worries 

    Worry about weight and how it affects our sex lives is life’s major fear for many people, according to a Reader’s Digest global survey.

    Australians appear to be the world’s biggest worriers when it comes to weight and how it affects performance in the bedroom.

    The Sydney Morning Herald reports a hefty 52 per cent said excess weight “seriously impacted” their sex lives – more than any other country except Mexico, which came in equal first with Australia.

    Wish Partner Would Lose Weight

    50% of Aussies thought they cared much too much about their waistlines, but at the same time secretly wished their partners would lose a few kilos.

    The revelations are part of a large-scale survey conducted by Readers Digest that took in the thoughts of some 6000 people from 16 countries around the world.

    In the workplace, one in three Australians believe being fat “seriously interferes” with career advancement, while four per cent have dieted in a bid to impress the boss.

    Do You Worry Weight is a Turn Off?

    Do you sympathise with people who feel insecure about their weight? Do you worry your weight makes you sexually unattractive?  Do you catch yourself thinking your partner would be more desirable if they lost a few pounds?  Let us know how your thoughts about weight affect your sex life and your romantic fantasies.

     
  • midlifelove 12:45 am on January 20, 2010 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: housework, men's work, , women's work, work life balance   

    More Housework, More Sex 

    MEN who do more housework get more sex. It’s official. And women who do more housework get more sex, too. A new US study reported in the Sydney Morning Herald of almost 7000 married couples shows that couples who work hard, play hard.

    It seems a select group of “go-getter” couples balance paid work, chores and still manage to make sex a priority, according to the research, which shows the couples made love 1.6 times a week.

    And while the women still did almost twice as much housework as the men, there was only a small difference in total hours worked when paid employment was added.

    Less housework, less sex

    The study found if slothful women and men – those who did housework for only 16 hours and two hours a week, respectively – increased their effort to match the high performers (women who did 68 hours and men 45 hours a week) they could expect to have sex 15 more times a year.

    As well, men and women who spent more time in paid work reported more sex, leading the researchers to conclude that ”individuals may be achievers across multiple spheres”.

    The US researchers say their findings debunk the theory that time spent on some pursuits, such as jobs or housework, must be stolen from other areas, such as sex. ”The much-lamented speed-up of everyday life … does not appear to have adverse effects on sexual frequency,” they say.

    Vacumn Cleaner ‘Best Sex Aid’

    The findings contradict an Australian study which showed working women found resentment over housework killed libido.

    ”If the resentment factor was high that’s when their sex life was not great. The best sex aid a man could use was a vacuum cleaner,” says Barbara Pocock, the director of the Centre for Work and Life at the University of South Australia,

    She also wondered about the sex lives of those women – about one-third – who say they feel ”almost always rushed and pressed for time”, especially mothers who did more than 20 hours a week of paid work.

    Have Your Say

    So what is your experience? Have you got the balance right and is your sex life sizzling? Or are you feeling like sex is just another chore you’re expected to do to keep the household functioning? Let us know what your experience is…

     
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