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  • midlifelove 1:00 pm on February 27, 2010 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: adultery, , Kara Wilson, Paul Burrell, Princess Diana, Shirley Valentine, Tom Conti   

    Adultery ‘No Big Deal’ – Tom Conti 

    There are worse things than being unfaithful, according to movie Lothario Tom Conti in an interview with the Times in which he says sex is nothing more than “an extension of a handshake”.

    The Scottish star of  Shirley Valentine who is rumoured to have had an affair with Diana, Princess of Wales, said he believed that of all the things people could do to one another, sexual infidelity was “probably one of the least terrible”.

    ‘Don’t Upset the Applecart’

    Conti (68) who has been married to Kara Wilson, an actress, for 42 years, says it’s “all about degrees. Of course, if you upset the whole applecart that’s a different story.”

    Conti and his wife are said by actress daughter Nina to have an open marriage in which both have had a string of affairs, and Conti finds some people’s sensitivity to the idea puzzling.

    “The slightest sniff of infidelity and they are reaching for the lawyer,” he said. “I remember a very famous actor with whom I was friendly who, when he was in his seventies, married a girl of 23.

    “He came home unexpectedly one day and she was under the decorator. He phoned me to tell me he was getting divorced. I said ‘the girl is 23. You are 70. You can’t satisfy her every night. Do you want her to live like a nun? Why don’t you just close your eyes to it?’

    “He said he would always worry that she was being unfaithful. I said ‘so worry a little’. But they divorced. It was very stupid. It cost him millions and the woman he is now married to is an absolute bloody nightmare.”

    The Player and the Princess

    In 2003 it was speculated that Conti had had an affair with Diana after Paul Burrell, her former butler, revealed in his memoirs she’d been involved in a relationship with an unnamed actor. The pair were known to have enjoyed a string of lunch dates and Conti attended her funeral in 1997 but has refused to discuss their relationship further.

    “She was delightful, she was lovely,” he said. “It was so sad for the boys because they were such children. A child losing his mother is vulnerable beyond description.”

    He said the secret of his long marriage was “tolerance on both sides” and denied suggestions that his real life mirrored that of the men he has portrayed on screen.

    Is Fidelity Important?

    Do you agree with Conti’s cool assessment of the dangers of adultery? Have you been betrayed and hurt by it? Or do you agree with his “turn a blind eye and tolerate it” approach. Share your views – we’d love to hear what you think.

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  • midlifelove 12:06 am on February 27, 2010 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: beam radiation therapy, Dr Richard Valicenti, , radiation treatment, sex life after cancer, sex life good after cancer, sex life normal two years later   

    Radiation for Prostate Cancer Won’t Hurt Sex 

    If a man’s sex life was strong and happy before being he got prostate cancer, it’s likely it will return to similar good levels within two years of radiation treatment for prostate cancer.

    That’s the conclusion to be drawn from a new study on how sex is affected by the effects of prostate radiation treatments.

    While sex is likely to decrease over the first two years after treatment, it then stabilizes, according to US research reported by UPI.

    Satisfaction Four Years Later

    Researchers at the Jefferson Medical College of Thomas Jefferson University in Philadelphia, the Thomas Jefferson University Hospital in Philadelphia and University of California, Davis, School of Medicine evaluated 143 prostate cancer patients receiving external beam radiation therapy who completed baseline data on sexual function before treatment and at follow-up visits.

    Senior author Dr. Richard Valicenti of the University of California, Davis, School of Medicine, said patients were analyzed on sexual drive, erectile function, ejaculatory function and overall satisfaction for a median time of about four years.

    Past Performance Best Predictor

    The study authors found the strongest predictor of sexual function after treatment was sexual function before treatment and the only statistically significant decrease in function occurred in the first two years after treatment — and function then stabilized with no significant changes thereafter.

    The findings are published in the International Journal of Radiation Oncology*Biology*Physics.

     
  • midlifelove 1:00 am on February 23, 2010 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: Air France-KLM, obese passengers, pay more per seat if you are obese, United   

    The Perils of Flying Economy 

    Former US vice president Al Gore has quipped that “Airplane travel is nature’s way of making you look like your passport photo.”

    But after you’ve had a trip like the one in this you probably age by ten years!

    Obese Fliers to Pay More

    Air France-KLM has joined airlines like United in requiring obese passengers to pay more.

    United announced last year it would bump severely obese passengers off sold-out flights and require them to buy two seats on the next flight or upgrade to business class, where the seats are larger.

    Chicago-based United decided to adopt the tougher policy after receiving more than 700 complaints last year from passengers “who did not have a comfortable flight because the person next to them infringed on their seat,” the airline said.

    Now Air France-KLM has announced that for “safety reasons” from April 1 obese fliers who were unable to squeeze into a single aeroplane seat would have to pay 75 per cent of the cost of a second seat.

     
  • midlifelove 1:29 am on February 21, 2010 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: best places to retire, Country Brand ratings, Forbes magazine, medical care costs, retirement   

    Best Places To Retire 


    Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.

    — Mark Twain

    Author Twain’s advice applies at any age, but especially for those in their middle years looking ahead to possible “retirement”.  You maybe won’t ever want to “retire” like your parents did, but chances are you’ll be changing locations, changing your means of earning income, and maybe even changing countries.

    There are stacks of “Best Places to Retire Lists” around, all using different criteria. CBS’ Moneywatch has done a good analysis of some of the more popular list sites get their ratings.

    But now Forbes magazine has compiled its own list of the 10 best retirement havens for US citizens, based on a wide variety of criteria ranging from safety to retiree-friendly visa requirements to decent medical care.

    Forbes’ Top Ten Places to Retire

    Austria – A “lower-cost Switzerland” with mountains, the great outdoors, elegant architecture and trams that run. Vienna offers the highest quality of life on the globe, according to Mercer, and medical insurers say its private clinics are world-class.

    Thailand – Expect a warmly welcome, ideal for seniors on modest budgets. Considered Asia’s best buy for quality health care at reasonable costs, but the good private hospitals are in Bangkok, so make sure your beach retreat is within three hours of the capital.

    Italy – Warm Mediterranean sociability and one of the world’s best health care systems.  Great bargains in the South in Puglia or Sicily, or in cities like Sorrento on the Amalfi Coast.

    Panama – Year-round sun, low taxes, massive discounts for seniors, first-world amenities, quality private hospitals, bird-filled rainforests, a dollar economy and easy flights from the U.S.

    Ireland – Stunning countryside, cultural affinity, low taxes and many rebates for seniors. Overpriced Dublin reachable in a couple hours from anywhere in the country, so look for housing inland.

    Australia – The world’s best place to live, according to the Country Brand Index. The highest quality cities at the lowest cost, claims Mercer. The famously friendly Aussie has created a first-world country with low Asian costs.

    France – offers perhaps the friendliest of policies toward American retirees of any European Union nation. Considered most affordable quality health care in the world, plus low taxes for American ex-pats. Paris for wealthy, but Brittany, Normandy and the Dordogne, a short train ride away, are more affordable.

    Malaysia – Welcoming to retirees, low costs and spectacular coastline make it a strong contender for the budget-conscious, but also increasingly for the wealthy wanting an Asian tax haven. For health care reasons, avoid straying too far from Kuala Lumpur.

    Spain – The ‘Florida of Europe’ has long been a magnet for sun-starved Brits, so retirement infrastructure all in place. Coast overdeveloped but great value in lesser-known interior cities like Salamanca or Burgos.

    Canada – Cities from Vancouver to Montreal consistently score among the best in the world, both on quality-of-life and value-for-money benchmarks. Friendly policies toward retirees, affordable medical care and a natural cultural fit for Americans.

    Nowhere Is Perfect

    Says Forbes: “No place is perfect. Some countries rank high in one area but lower in others. Australia is by one well-regarded rating, the Country Brand Index, the most livable place in the world. But if you plan to return to the U.S. frequently, Australia makes for a long slog.

    “Canada is No. 2 in the Country Brand ratings and certainly convenient for Americans, but its harsh winters are well-known.

    “Italy scores high on quality of life, medical care, and cost of living and climate  . .  . But its complicated taxes and bureaucracy require patience.

    “So, the key to any decision: Know yourself and do your homework.”

     
  • midlifelove 3:52 am on February 19, 2010 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: cancer, Coffee good for you, Coffee health benefits, Harvard Medical School, , longevity, ,   

    Coffee Brims With Health 

    Drink up, coffee lovers. Not only is coffee aromatic and delicious, it’s good for you.

    Who says? None other than Harvard Medical School.

    Once considered questionable for your health, it turns out that the beloved beverage is actually healthful in moderation. That means a few cups a day.

    At about 20 cents per 6-ounce cup, coffee is a good deal if you brew it yourself.

    Harvard researchers say drinking coffee may help prevent diseases such as:

    • Cancer: Some studies have found coffee drinkers have lower rates of colon and rectal cancers, better survival rates with prostate cancer, and are 50 percent less likely to get liver cancer than coffee abstainers.
    • Type 2 diabetes: Coffee is thought to contain chemicals that lower blood sugar because heavy coffee drinkers may be half as likely to get diabetes as those who drink little or no coffee. Coffee also may increase your resting metabolism rate, which could help prevent diabetes.
    • Parkinson’s disease: Coffee seems to help protect men from Parkinson’s disease, but not women. The difference might be due to estrogen, researchers say.
    • Heart disease: Coffee is not linked to the development of heart disease. In the past few years, Harvard scientists say, coffee has been shown to be safe even for heart attack survivors. Scientists think antioxidants in coffee may reduce inflammation and protect blood vessel walls.
    • Life span: Recent studies suggest that drinking coffee decreases the risk of premature death, especially in women. Women who drank at least five to seven cups a week had a death rate 26 percent lower than non-consumers, a large investigation by researchers in Spain and at Harvard Medical School found.

    Three Or More Cups Good

    It’s not only Harvard researchers who are touting the brew’s benefits. As the Palm Beach Post reported, in September a study led by Neal Freedman of the National Cancer Institute showed that people with chronic hepatitis C and advanced liver disease who drank three or more cups of coffee a day cut their risk of the disease progressing by 53 percent.

    Although caffeine might be considered the “active ingredient” in coffee, coffee is only 2 percent caffeine and 98 percent “other stuff,” including more than 1,000 different compounds such as vitamins, minerals and amino acids.

    It even contains fiber. Each cup contains from 1.1 to 1.8 grams of soluble dietary fiber, the kind that dissolves in water and helps prevent cholesterol from being absorbed by the intestines, according to researchers at the Spanish National Research Council in Madrid.

    But Not If You Are Pregnant

    Do researchers have any words of caution? Yes — although regular coffee drinking isn’t harmful for most people, that might not hold true for pregnant women. Research has linked miscarriage to caffeine consumption of 200 milligrams or more per day. A typical cup of coffee has 100 to 150 milligrams, Harvard reports.

     
  • midlifelove 12:19 am on February 17, 2010 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: , boosts Vit D., cod liver oil, mackerel, salmon, sardines, , sunbathing, sunscreens, sunshine, , tuna, Vit D, Vitamin D   

    Sunshine boosts sex drive 

    The idea of taking a break in the Caribbean sun to rejuvenate your sex life isn’t just an escapist fantasy, according to new research.

    An hour of sunbathing can boost a man’s testosterone levels – and his sex drive – by 69 per cent, European researchers reported in the Daily Telegraph have found.

    Sunshine is vital to boosting Vitamin D levels, and the new study shows Vitamin D is essential for good testosterone levels.

    Stimulated by UV radiation, 90 per cent of Vitamin D in the body is produced by the skin, although it can be found in cold water fish like tuna and salmon, and in cod liver oil.

    And while sunscreens with a sun protection factor of 8 or greater will block UV rays that produce Vitamin D, but it is still important to routinely use sunscreen whenever sun exposure is longer than 10 to 15 minutes.

    Testosterone Fluctuates With Sunshine

    Researchers at the Medical University of Graz in Austria found men with more Vitamin D per millilitre of blood had much more of the main male sexual hormone circulating than those with less.

    And the average amount of testosterone over the course of the year was subject to the same fluctuations as the Vitamin D level.

    Both decrease from October – at the beginning of the winter months – and reach their lowest level in March because of the weaker solar radiation during this period.

    Not Enough Sun

    Season, latitude, time of day, cloud cover, smog, and sunscreens affect UV ray exposure, so if you live somewhere with little sun, it is especially important to include good sources of Vitamin D in your food.

    In Boston – for example – the average amount of sunlight is insufficient to produce significant Vitamin D synthesis in the skin from November through February.

    Ad Brand, spokesman of the Sunlight Research Forum in Veldhoven in the Netherlands, said: “Men who ensure their body is at least sufficiently supplied with Vitamin D are doing good for their testosterone levels and their libido among other things.”

    Best Foods For Vit D

    While sunshine is the most effective Vitamin D source, it can also be obtained by eating fatty fish –cold water varieties like salmon, mackerel, tuna and sardines, by taking cod liver oil, eggs, beef liver, or UV irradiated mushrooms.

    Foods like cereals and milk are now routinely fortified with Vit D.

    Testosterone is the most important male sexual hormone. In males it is mainly responsible for the development of the sex organs, the formation and maintenance of the typical male sexual characteristics, sperm production and the controlling of male desire.

     
  • midlifelove 3:28 am on February 15, 2010 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: 6 cups of coffee a day, aggressive cancer affected most, , decaf as good, , Kathryn M Wilson, , survival rates improved   

    Coffee To Beat Prostate Cancer 

    Having a few more cups of coffee can reduce a man’s risk of dying of prostate cancer, a new study indicates.

    While the case for coffee as a preventative for prostate cancer is far from proven, results show a definite link, particularly with aggressive forms of cancer, US News reports.

    “I wouldn’t recommend that people change their coffee-drinking habits based on this study,” said Kathryn M. Wilson, a research fellow in epidemiology at the Harvard School of Public Health and lead author of one report. “But if you like coffee, there is no compelling reason to cut back at this point.”

    Aggressive Cancer Affected Most

    Data collected on 50,000 men showed nearly 10 per cent (4975) were diagnosed with prostate cancer in the 20 years from 1986 to 2006.

    But only 846 of those cancers were life-threatening. And while the study found just a weak relationship between consumption of six or more cups of coffee a day and a reduced risk of all forms of prostate cancer (down about 19 percent), the reduction for the aggressive form was much more marked — 41 percent.

    And there was a clear relationship between the amount of coffee consumed and prostate cancer risk, Wilson said: “The more coffee you drank, the more effect we saw.”

    Decaf Works Just As Well

    The caffeine in coffee doesn’t seem to be the link, since the same reduction was seen for consumption of decaffeinated coffee, she said.

    Instead, “it has something to do with insulin and glucose metabolism,” Wilson said. “A number of studies have found that coffee is associated with a reduced risk of diabetes.”

    This study is just a starting point for establishing a relationship between coffee and prostate cancer, Wilson stressed.

    “We hope that this study drives more research so that we really know what is going on.”

     
  • midlifelove 2:07 am on February 13, 2010 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: Catholic church, , PETA, Sasha Grey, scandalous PETA ads, sex a bad thing   

    Too Much Sex a Bad Thing 

    PETA (People for the Ethical Treatment of Animals) has made the slogan “Too Much Sex a Bad Thing” something like a “brand” for their campaign for birth control for cats and dogs.

    Over the years they’ve produced a string of suitably ‘scandalous’ ads featuring scantily clad or naked women and the latest to join the strip roster is porn star/ actress Sasha Grey.

    You could ask why they haven’t used buff young men as well and you’d have to conclude they know as well as anyone who attracts the most attention.

    Sasha is photographed naked, glancing alluringly over her shoulder with the caption: “Too Much Sex Can Be a Bad Thing: Have your cats and dogs spayed or neutered.”

    You can judge for yourself the effectiveness of the campaign:

    http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2010/01/19/sasha-grey-nude-peta-ad-p_n_428763.html

    And if you really want to see why some folk object, take a look at one of the earlier campaigns which upset the Catholic church:

    http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2009/12/16/a-decade-of-scandalous-pe_n_388741.html?slidenumber=zVaC0cqFdwM%3D&slideshow&slideshow&slideshow&slideshow&slideshow&slideshow&slideshow&slideshow&slideshow&slideshow&slideshow

    Sex Good For Humans

    Interestingly, unless you’ve concerns about sexually transmitted diseases or over population, the same can’t be said for humans.

    Sex is Good for You was one of this blog’s most popular posts, and it’s true that the emotional and health benefits of an active sex life are being steadily recognised.

    Even for animals other than companion pets, it’s something to be generally encouraged. The company that produces a herbal sex tonic for men, Herbal Ignite, reports one happy customer for many years was the owner of the pure bred stallion, who popped a few pills of Ignite in his morning chaff to boost his performance.

    If you are interested in improving your SEX life, then download this e-book on getting stronger Erections. http://herbaligniteusa.com/free-treatment

     
  • midlifelove 2:13 am on February 11, 2010 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: Angeline Close, frugal Valentine's, low cost gifts, , saving not spending, Valentine's Day   

    My Frugal Valentine 

    Valentine’s Day is taking a big hit as the third year of recession turns Americans into savers rather than spenders, the NY Times reports.

    Business forecasters say as the financial crisis continues to bite, people are re-evaluating their personal values and making permanent changes to their spending habits.

    The result is Valentine’s Day is returning to its roots, as an intimate card-giving occasion that grew into the second-most marketed holiday after Christmas.

    Cheaper Faster Better!

    For 2010, with apologies to Rodgers and Hart, frugal valentines are likely to supplant funny ones. The mood is epitomized by the cover of the Feb. 17 issue of Woman’s Day magazine. Next to a photograph of a heart-shaped chocolate dessert on a pink plate are these words: “Cheaper, Faster, Better!”

    Long-stemmed roses are being replaced by homemade cards, and personal jewelry by personal poems. Budget restaurants, which have not traditionally been hot spots for lovers, are offering Valentine’s Day specials.

    Creative and Personal

    The Internet abounds with ideas for frugal options, like playlists burned onto CDs and coupons for household chores.

    And even some preparing to propose on Valentine’s are seeking a bargain approach: on Yahoo, searches for “cheap engagement rings” are “off the charts” compared with a year ago.

    Other searches that are up over last year include “cheap lingerie,” “free Valentine’s Day cards” and “homemade Valentine’s Day gifts.”

    Romance and Humour

    Some suggestions for low cost personal ways to celebrate:

    • Do whatever it is that you did on your first date. The idea is to recreate that first meeting, recall falling in love and indulge in a little humorous nostalgia.
    • Imitate the couple who were building a “blanket fort” in their living room and sharing a picnic dinner – or take a picnic in the park for real
    • Cook a nice dinner together and listen to your favourite CD’s.
    • Prepare a special Valentine’s dessert
    • Give each other a massage

    Angeline Close, a business professor at the University of Nevada, Las Vegas, says Valentine’s Day may be coming full circle.

    “It started as a very pure romantic holiday, until capitalism and marketing spiked it,” she said. “We are retreating back a little bit to the original meaning behind the day.”

     
  • midlifelove 1:40 am on February 9, 2010 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: bathroom, , dead skin n cells, dummies, loo, poo, removal, , underwear, undies, weighing scale   

    5 Worst Valentine’s Gifts 

    If you’re feeling sour rather than sweet about your 21010 Valentine, we’ve got suggestions for the Five Worst Valentine’s Gifts ever. These are little somethings that are guaranteed to offend.  If you risk giving them, be ready to handle the fall out, or make sure the (misplaced?) object of your affections has a great sense of humor.

    1) Sex for Dummies Book

    2) Installing two person loo for your loved one to poo at the same time as you

    3) Underwear to fit two people

    4) Chocolate scale to remind her that she’s got lots to lose

    5) Remove your own dead skin and fallen hair

     
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